Older sister pressures younger sister to give her the $10K inheritance their parents left her for her education so that the older sister can pay her bills: 'It's what mom and dad would've wanted.'

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Am I the bad guy for refusing to give my sister the $10,000 my parents left me, even though she says it was "meant for both of us"?

My parents passed away two years ago, about eight months apart. In their will, they left specific amounts to each of us my brother got the car, my sister got some jewelry and a small amount of cash, and I was left $10,000 along with instructions that it go toward
"finishing my education," since I was the only one of the three of us still in school at the time (I was halfway through a nursing program).
I used part of that money to pay off my last two semesters and the rest is sitting in a savings account, mostly untouched, because it still feels weird to spend "gone parent money" on anything that isn't essential.
Fast forward to now. My sister recently lost her job and is behind on rent. She came to me and asked if she could have half of the $10,000, her reasoning being that our parents "would have wanted us to split everything evenly" and that it's "not fair" I got a lump sum for school while she got jewelry she
can't exactly pay bills with. - I told her I understood she was struggling, and I offered to help her in other ways — I could cover a month of groceries, help her with her resume, let her stay with me temporarily. But I said no to giving her a cut of the $10k, because it wasn't left to "us," it was left to me,
specifically, with a stated purpose, and I already used a portion of it for that exact purpose. She's not really speaking to me right now. My brother thinks I'm being technically correct but "kind of cold" about it, since family "should share when
someone's drowning." My aunt, on the other hand, thinks I have zero obligation to redistribute money that was left to me individually, especially since I didn't get anything else from the estate (no car, no jewelry, no house items).
I keep going back and forth. Part of me feels like I'm hiding behind "the will said so" instead of just being generous to my own sister when she needs it.
But another part of me feels like if I cave every time someone frames it as "what mom and dad would've wanted," I'll never actually have anything of my own, and this money isn't infinite.
So, AITA for not splitting the inheritance my parents left specifically to me, even though my sister is struggling and thinks it should've been shared?
bmw5986 NTA. Your parents left that $ to you, not her, not your brother. They got other things. If shes really that bad off, she has options, including the ones you offered. Or worst case, she can sell the jewelry. As for your brother, if hes so concerned, he can step up and give her $.
keepercoach69 NTA! It was left to you!. Your sister has no claim on this money!!
scarygirlieuk NTA. If she's not speaking to you then she can't keep asking you for money.
AnyDecision470 Thing is, she can ASK but she has to be prepared for the Yes or the No answer. If she's sulking or not talking to you, then she wasn't asking but simply expecting and now she's punishing you for your answer. Family is all well and good, until money is involved. Sorry she put you in this position. ΝΤΑ
Responsible_Smile924 ... she got some money already and from her perspective where is your jewelry then
Decent_Front4647 NTA your parents wanted you to have that money for a specific reason. I really hate seeing when people try and manipulate family members over small inheritances like this. It's your nest egg, and you shouldn't give that up, Your brother could help her out if he feels she needs a lifeline.

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